Dr Cathrine Neilsen-Hewett is an experienced Child Development expert. As a mother of three young children, understanding children’s development and promoting positive approaches to parenting has become both a passion and a full-time career. You have the opportunity to ask your questions now.
if you think food sensitivities are contributing to his night wetting he may benefit from eliminating foods such as citrus and dairy from his diet....
firstly, let me apologise for the delay in getting back to you I have had an overwhelming number of questions to answer over the past two weeks. Ch...
you would find most children your daughter’s age would still be wetting the bed at night with many professionals not even viewing nighttime wetting...
Often when it comes to bedwetting no matter how hard we try children will continue to wet at night. This is partly because they really have very li...
While children can be taught to control their bladder during the day, nighttime continence is a completely different story. The first and most impo...
it is not unusual for children to experience periods of dry nights then a return to wetting as they travel the road toward nighttime continence. Th...
Unfortunately when it comes to bedwetting many parents and children suffer in silence, too embarrassed to discuss their situation with anyone while...
this must be very distressing for both you and your daughter. It is not unusual for a child who has experienced some difficulty achieving nighttime...
it is perfectly normal for parents to feel worried as well as a little frustrated when their child continues to wet the bed at night. Urinary tract...
when bedwetting continues over many years it becomes increasingly frustrating for both the parents and the child. It must feel at times that this w...
Sometimes children begin to wet the bed again after experiencing a period of dryness – these children are experiencing what we refer to as secondar...
Firstly, please accept my apologies for the delay in getting back to you I have had a large volume of questions to answer over the past two weeks. ...
Firstly, please accept my apologies for the delay in getting back to you I have had a large volume of questions to answer over the past two weeks. ...
unfortunately not all children outgrow bedwetting – with some requiring more than just the basic measures we can implement at home. If you are conc...
Children wet the bed for a number of reasons, some do so because they produce double the amount of urine overnight, others do so as they are unable...
This is fairly typical – the majority of children who wet the bed at night are unaware it is happening and will continue sleeping even when wet. On...
When bedwetting goes on for a number of years it is perfectly normal for parents to feel helpless and overwhelmed. Children typically wet the bed a...
Bedwetting has been found to run in families so it is not unusual to find a number of siblings in the same household wetting the bed. I’m sure if y...
One of the signs that your daughter is moving toward achieving nighttime continence is a reduction in the number of nights she wakes up wet. The fa...
Your daughter is experiencing what we commonly refer to as secondary nocturnal enuresis (SNE) – this occurs when a child has maintained nighttime c...
It is perfectly normal for your daughter to still be wetting the bed at night with almost 1 in 10 4-year-olds continuing to wet the bed on a regula...
Hi Britney – nice to hear from you again! Leakage often results from improper fit, which can occur if your DryNites are too small. Check that the...
Hi D.T. - there are a number of causes to bedwetting and genetics certainly has a role to play. We typically say that if one parent wet the bed as...
DryNites fit like an underpant and can be worn comfortably under pyjamas or boxer shorts at night – some individuals choose to wear underpants over...
It is not unusual for teenagers to experience a return to bedwetting at times of stress or emotional upheaval. Although this may seem incredibly e...
Unfortunately I do not reside in Auckland. I would recommend that you contact the New Zealand Psychological Society (http://www.psychology.org.nz)...
Hi D.S – given your age and weight you need to look into purchasing a product designed for adults – it is important that these fit properly around ...
If you have outgrown the largest DryNites I would recommend that you look into some of the incontinence products designed for adults – you can pu...
It is not unusual for chldren who have been diagnosed with a small bladder capacity to experience nocturnal enuresis. This form of incontinence of...
Hi Chantell, it is perfectly normal for your son to be still wetting the bed at night so there is absolutely no cause for concern. Many children, ...
Regular urination throughout the day can be a result of a number of different factors. The fact that he also wets through his DryNites at night m...
Hi – there are a number of treatments available to help your daughter to become dry at night. While conditioning alarms experience the best outcom...
Hi Lisa, while it is certainly true that many children outgrow bedwetting on their own, this is not the case for everyone. The important thing to ...
Hi Rachael, firstly I would recommend trying DryNites rather than Pull-Ups, these are specifically designed for nighttime use and are much more abs...
Hi Sarah – unfortunately unlike daytime continence the road to achieving nighttime continence is less direct, with many a speed bump! Unlike toile...
Hi Natasha, parents of children who wet the bed often comment on how ‘heavy a sleeper’ their child is. Researchers have shown that while deep sleep...
Hi T.L – symptoms of Neuronal Intestinal Dysplasia (NID) can include constipation, abnormal sleeping patterns as well as incontinence of the bladde...
This must very challenging for you. In a very small percentage of cases bedwetting can extend right through to our adult years. The fact that y...
Hi Nikole – it can be incredibly frustrating when you continue to wet the bed at night despite a strong motivation to stop. It is unlikely that yo...
Hi David – while I’m not aware of any research directly linking testosterone with bedwetting in boys, there may be an indirect link in that increas...
The time between being daytime trained and achieving nighttime continence is quite variable. Unlike toilet training, which is conscious and delibe...
Hi Kerry, many children prefer to wear DryNites as it gives them confidence they need in order to go to sleep at night and reduces the anxiety asso...
Hi Brooke - while we no longer recommend restricting fluids completely before bedtime it is perfectly fine to reduce the amount he drinks in the ev...
Hi Vicki, in order for your daughter to become dry at night she either needs to learn to wake in response to a full-bladder or her bladder needs to...
Dear H.M., It is not unusual for children to waiver between periods of dryness and return to wetting as they move toward achieving permanent nightt...
Hi Charlene, the time it takes between achieving daytime control and nighttime continence is quite variable. Some children achieve this in a matte...
Hi Louise, given your daughter was dry for over two years it would be a good idea to first have her checked by your GP just to make sure there is n...
In must be incredibly frustrating and disheartening when you feel like you have tried it all and still your son continues to wet at night. While m...
Hi Emily, in the vast majority of cases children are completely unaware that they are wetting or have wet the bed. Unfortunately there are a lot ...
Hi Natasha, you are not alone here with many parents experiencing similar patterns of nighttime wetting with their young children. It is quite c...
Firstly, let me reassure you that it is perfectly normal for children to continue to wet the bed at night up until around age 6 years. I generally ...
As I am sure you are aware, bedwetting has a number of different causes, with low hormone levels being just one possible factor. Without knowing...
Hi Cathy, it is not unusual for children your daughters age to still be wetting the bed at night with around 1 in 7 children continuing to do so by...
Hi B.H., unfortunately there are no simple answers when it comes to understanding children’s bedwetting. The most common causes of bedwetting incl...
Hi A. H., given the frequency of his wetting it is unlikely that he is ready to go to bed without the use of an absorbent pant of some other absorb...
It is not unusual for parents to comment on an increase in bedwetting during the winter months and then find their children stop wetting again ...
Hi S. B. – while you are correct in saying it is perfectly normal for a child your sons age to be still wetting at night if you are at all concerne...
Dear R.M., that is wonderful to hear - thank you so much for sharing that with us! Regards, Dr Cathrine
Hi S.C. – as children move toward achieving permanent nighttime continence it is not unusual for them to waiver between periods of dryness than r...
Given his daytime wetting it is a very wise decision to have him checked by your GP. Your doctor will want to know things like how often he wets t...
One of the most common concerns for children who wet the bed is attending social events like school-camps. Their biggest fear typically revolves ar...
Hi R. P., when bedwetting continues for many years it is completely understandable that children start to believe that it will never stop! Have yo...
Hi Liezle – the frustrating and challenging part of bedwetting is that we often do not know what is causing it to occur – this also presents a numb...
Bedwetting can be incredibly challenging to manage, particularly when it occurs on a regular basis. There are a number of reasons as to why childre...
Hi Razan – bedwetting treatments are generally not recommend for children under 6 years of age, this is largely due to the fact that it is consider...
It is not unusual for children your daughters age to still be wetting the bed at night with around 1 in 7 children continuing to do so by school-ag...
While research certainly shows links between deep sleeping patterns and bedwetting, it is not the primary cause of why it happens in the first plac...
Hi Michelle - Happy New Year to you too! It can be incredibly frustrating for parents when you feel you have done all the right things and your chi...
Hi Aleisha – firstly, please be reassured that it is perfectly normal for a 5-year-old boy to still wet at night. If you are however concerned abo...
Hi Y. S., it can be incredibly frustrating when you feel like you have tried it all and still your child continues to wet the bed at night. The fi...
Given your son’s age and the potential impact his bedwetting can have on his social interactions – now is the time to look into introducing some fo...
Hi Christina, as bedwetting has an underlying genetic cause, it is not unusual to find a number of children in the one family who wet the bed at ni...
Hi Nyssa, Children’s overnight urine output can be quite variable; however a significant increase in bedwetting can be incredibly distressing for b...
Hi D.C., It must be incredibly frustrating and disheartening when you feel like you have tried it all and still your son continues to wet at night....
Hi Rachel - You certainly do have your hands full! While I would not normally be concerned about a 4-year-old wetting at night, from your explanat...
Hi Ethan – bedwetting can be incredibly annoying particularly when it stops you doing fun things like going to sleepovers. Have you thought about ...
Hi Lee-Ann, it is completely understandable that he gets upset – no child every wants to wet the bed. Given his age and the fact that his bedwetti...
Hi Justine, please be reassured it is perfectly normal for your son to still be wetting the bed at night with many children (especially boys) con...
Hi K.V., first of all, what a lucky boy to have such wonderful, understanding and supportive parents! You have obviously given a lot of thought ...
Hi Charmaine, dealing with bedwetting can be particularly challenging for parents when they themselves did not experience bedwetting as a child. W...
Hi S.M. this is an incredibly challenging and frustrating situation. It is important that you understand that your bedwetting is no different from...
Bedwetting is always tricky to deal with especially as you get older. While your feelings of embarrassment are completely understandable it is imp...
Hi Christine, there are a number of reasons children wet the bed at night. Given that she is also experiencing issues with daytime toileting I wou...
Hi Alison, bedwetting can be incredibly frustrating particularly when you feel like you have tried it all and still your child continues to wet at ...
Hi Sandra – there is quite a strong genetic link to bedwetting so it is not unusual to find a number of individuals in the same family experiencing...
Hi Mark, when it comes to stopping bedwetting your best bet is to try a conditioning alarm. While your son may outgrow bedwetting on his own – t...
Hi Krystina, this is certainly a tricky situation. While it is very unusual for a child to deliberately wet the bed, it does appear from your desc...
Hi Melanie, There are a number of possible reasons why your son continues to wet at night. Children who wet usually do so because their bladder ...
Hi A. E., That is such a shame that you received this response. Unfortunately there are a lot of mix messages out there when it comes to treating ...
Waking children throughout the night to go to the toilet is really a form of management and does little in the way of helping children to stop and ...
Hi M. B, The fact that your son still wets at night is not a particular concern given the fact he is a boy and he is only 6 years of age – with som...
Hi L.C., there is much debate about how best to treat and manage bedwetting. There is a school of thought that suggests the best way to treat bedw...
Hi Mark, it is not unusual for parents to feel a little frustrated when bedwetting extends into the teenage years. While they may appear angry I’m ...
One of the best indicators that your grandaughter is moving toward achieving nighttime continence is an increase in the number of consecutive night...
Hi Tania, if you haven’t done so already I would recommend that you make an appointment to see your GP. While it is not unusual for children you...
Hi Karolyn, this must be incredibly distressing for you all. Certainly when it comes to the more traditional measures, conditioning alarms continue...
Hi Jimmy, while it is certainly true that some children outgrow bedwetting, this is not the case for everyone. The good news is that there are a n...
Hi Michelle, you do not mention in your question how long your son had been dry at night for. If it has been for a period of 6 months or more then...
Hi S.B – your daughter is suffering from secondary nocturnal enuresis (SNE) a term used to describe the condition where a child has maintained prop...
Hi M.J., it doesn’t sound like your son has a problem with bedwetting given he is able to wake-up in response to a full-bladder and has a dry nappy...
This must be incredibly distressing for you all. Certainly when it comes to the more traditional measures, conditioning alarms continue to experien...
Hi Kathleen - It is quite common for parents of children who wet the bed to comment on how heavy a sleeper their child is. Children who are particu...
Hi Anna, while it is perfectly normal for 5-year-old children to be still wetting the bed at night, given she had been dry for an extended period i...
This is certainly a challenging situation. Alarms are generally the most effective means of treating bedwetting, although it is true that they do ...
Hi Kath – one of the common misconceptions surrounding bedwetting is that children somehow have control over the situation and if presented with ad...
Hi Jodie – one of the most frustrating things for parents of children who wet the bed is that we don’t always understand why it is happening. W...
While children have conscious control over their bladder during the day this is not necessarily the case at nighttime which is why many children co...
Hi Faith – when bedwetting continues into the teenage years it can begin to impact on a child’s self-esteem and social relationships. One of the m...
Hi Kerry – divorce can be incredibly stressful for all involved, especially young children. It is not uncommon for children to experience toiletin...
Hi Christine, as frustrating as this behaviour may be please be reassured that it is perfectly normal and has very little to do with anything you o...
Hi Hilary, the time between achieving daytime continence and nighttime control is different for every child. While some achieve this in a matter o...
Hi Renay, it can be incredibly frustrating when your child continues to wet at night despite your best efforts to help them stop; please be reassur...
Hi Kelly, when bedwetting starts to impact on a child’s self-esteem then it is time to think about treatment regardless of how old they are! Fir...
Hi Jack – first let me say what a wonderful thing you are doing. I have a number of colleagues who foster children and I understand how challe...
It is very common for children as they move toward achieving permanent nighttime continence to oscillate between periods of dryness and times when ...
It is not uncommon for children your son’s age to still be wetting the bed on a regular basis; bedwetting is far more common among boys than gi...
Waking or lifting children to the toilet during the night is typically seen as a practical approach to managing children’s bedwetting in the short-...
Hi Toni – the time it takes between achieving daytime continence and being dry at night is quite variable, some children are lucky to do this in ...
About six percent of children continue to wet the bed at night by age 7 years – so you are not alone! While many children do outgrow the problem,...
Hi Simone - The incidence of bedwetting in children with ADHD is about two to three times higher than for other children. Children with ADHD are al...
Hi Danielle, it can be very frustrating when treatments do not result in the desired outcome! Nasal sprays are generally seen as a form of manageme...
It’s great that you’ve been able to identify a pattern to your daughter’s nighttime wetting. From what you have written it appears that you daught...
Hi Jacqueline, it is not particularly unusual for boys your son’s age to be still wetting the bed at night on a regular basis. However, given th...
Hi Vanessa (and Jye) – I am so sorry to hear that your son was made to feel responsible for his bedwetting. As I am sure you are fully aware, chil...
Hi Steven – as embarrassing as this may seem you are not alone. There are thousands of people, including teenagers and adults, who wet the bed at ...
Hi Christine – managing children’s bedwetting can be incredibly challenging and this is partly due to the fact that we do not always know what is c...
Hi Edmund, while parents used to be encouraged to wake their child throughout the night to help avoid a wet bed, this is no longer recommended as...
Your best move is to contact the Continence Association of Australia (1800 330 066) who will be able to recommend a medical professional in your ar...
Hi M. B. – given your daughter’s desire to move toward greater independence it would certainly be worthwhile making an appointment for her to see y...
Hi Helen – children generally become dry at night when their body has matured to the point where it can store the amount of urine their kidneys p...
Hi Antoinette, firstly, my apologies for the delay in responding … The most successful form of bedwetting treatment is the conditioning or bedwet...
Hi M.O – due to the underlying genetic cause, it is not unusual to find a number of children in the one family who wet the bed at night. Knowing t...
Hi Michelle, your son’s wetting would be considered secondary nocturnal enuresis, which describes the condition where a child returns to nightt...
It can be incredibly upsetting for children when they start wetting the bed again after being dry for an extended period. Firstly, you need to r...
Hi Dominic, while it is certainly possible that your son will outgrow bedwetting on his own, the chances of children doing this reduce, as they get...
Hi Jane – as frustrating as this is, it really is a very encouraging sign that your son is moving toward achieving nighttime continence. While som...
It is perfectly normal for a 5-year-old boy to be still wetting at night, with about 1 in 5 children continuing to do so at age 6. While the maj...
Bedwetting does run in families so it is not unusual to find a number of children in the one family experiencing nighttime wetting. When genetics ...
Hi Kristi, it can be incredibly frustrating when there appears to be no clear reason why children continue to wet at night. While the majority of...
Hi C. R. – bedwetting is often one of those things that no-one likes to talk about, with many parents feeling embarrassed and therefore suffer in s...
Hi K. S. – there are so many mixed messages out there; no wonder parents are confused when it comes to managing children’s bedwetting. I think the...
Hi Kersty, there is a lot of debate and discussion surrounding the causes of bedwetting. The one thing we do no is that not all children wet the b...
Hi Carey, it is very common for parents to comment on their child wavering between periods of being dry then returning to bedwetting again. The go...
Hi Michelle – managing children’s bedwetting can be incredibly tricky, partly because we often do not understand the underlying cause and partly be...
Hi J. G., it is highly unusual for children to be able to control their nighttime wetting in response to requests or external rewards, this is mo...
While it is true that some children outgrow bedwetting on their own, the older your child, the less likely they will be able to become dry on their...
Hi Jodie, we usually recommend that a doctor check children once they turn 7 years of age. While rare, it is important to rule out any possible un...
Hi Natalie, bedwetting can be incredibly distressing for teenagers due to the negative impact this is has on their social life and sense of self....
Bedwetting can be incredibly challenging to deal with particularly when it continues long beyond the age at when we think it should stop. The first...
Hi Tammy, as bedwetting has an underlying genetic cause, it is not unusual to find a number of children in the one family who wet the bed at nigh...
Hi Kellie – The first thing you need to do is reassure him that you understand that his nighttime wetting is largely beyond his control. Making t...
Hi Sonia, bedwetting can be incredibly challenging to manage, and even more so when it starts to impact on children’s school and extra-curricula ac...
Hi Kristy, it is not unusual for children to return to wetting at night at times of high stress – and moving house certainly rates as cuases of str...
Hi DB, we know that lifting to children in the toilet is really a form of management and does little in the way of helping children to stop and can...
Hi Michelle - There are a number of reasons why children continue to wet at night. Some do so because their body produces larger than normal amoun...
Hi Vicky, In must be incredibly frustrating and disheartening when you feel like you have tried it all and still your daughter continues to wet at ...
Dear S.S., there are a number of factors at play here. Firstly, bedwetting has an underlying genetic component – with children typically outgrowin...
It is not unusual for children to experience an increase in wetting at times of illness or stress or when they get overtired - which explains the i...
Hi Rowena, it can be incredibly frustrating when you feel like you have tried it all and still your child continues to wet the bed at night. The f...
Hi Anna - It can be incredibly frustrating to feel like you have tried it all and still experienced no success. The first thing to do is separate ...
Hi Elizabeth, it is not unusual for children to waiver between experiencing periods of dry nights then start to wet the bed again as they move towa...
Hi Charmaine, It is not uncommon for parents to comment on how deeply their child sleeps, with many children completely unaware that they have wet ...
It is only normal that you would feel frustrated with this situation. While your son’s bedwetting is not deliberate or behavioural, his response...
Dear Monica, it is not unusual for children to waiver between periods of dryness then return to wetting the bed again as they move toward achieving...
Hi C. W. – children develop the neurological and emotional capacity to control their bladders at different ages. At age 6, about 10-15% of childre...
Having a teenager who continues to struggle with bedwetting can be incredibly challenging for both you and them. The most important thing in the sh...
Hi Jane, please be reassured it is perfectly normal for your daughter to still be wetting the bed at night with many children continuing to do so u...
In order for your son to be able to wake-up dry his bladder needs to be able to hold the amount of urine he produces overnight or he needs to be ab...
Hi Shaelynn - DryNites are marketed as GoodNites in Canada but they work in the same way. In Australia you can purchase DryNites in supermarkets an...
Hi Elise, it is certainly fine for you to wear DryNites both during the day and night. If you do wear them to school you should make sure you chan...
Ideally, it is best if children wear DryNites designed for their own gender. The built-in absorbency differs for boys and girls, with greater abso...
Hi Katrina – DryNites are certainly fine to be worn both day and night and would be a great way to help your son manage his daytime incontinence. ...
Hi Lisa – the time between achieving daytime control and nighttime continence can vary from child to child. While some children will become dry at...
Hi Matthew, we generally recommend that you treat DryNites as you would your normal underwear – refreshing them each evening, regardless of whether...
Hi Elise, depending on your size and weight, I would recommend you wear DryNites rather than nappies; these are much more suitable for older childr...
In the USA you can purchase something very similar under the brand name “GoodNites” – for further information visit www.goodnites.com Regards, ...
Hi Jake – it may take up to 2 weeks for you to receive your free sample (possibly longer given the postal strike). Regards, Dr Cathrine
Hi John - unfortunately the 8-15 years (27-57kg+) is the largest size that DryNites come in so you would need to look into purchasing a product des...
Hi John - unfortunately the 8-15 years (27-57kg+) is the largest size that DryNites come in so you would need to look into purchasing a product des...
Unfortunately this is beyond my area of expertise. I would recommend you speak with your GP if this continues to be a problem. Regards, Dr Cat...
Hi Chaza - would you mind providing additional information, are you inquiring about the availability of DryNites in Kuwait? Thank you for your i...
Hi Donna, DryNites are available for purchase in the United Kingdom, but I would recommend taking at least one or two packets with you just to cove...
Hi Lauren, firstly, apologies for the delay in responding to you. This is an incredibly frustrating situation for you all, and calls for LOTS of p...
Some children prefer to wear DryNites everynight even when they experience irregular wetting just so that they can go to sleep at night without the...
Hi Suzanne, unfortunately I am not familiar with this research, but if you have any concerns regarding the use of DryNites I would certainly recomm...
This is certainly a challenging situation. With respect to treatment, it is best that you follow the guidelines and recommendation of your Pediatr...
Hi S. S. – It is perfectly normal to feel nervous about your school trip but there are certainly things we can do in order to help you go away on...
Boys DryNites are typically in higher demand due to the higher incidence of bedwetting among boys than girls. It might be helpful to share this in...
Boys DryNites are typically in higher demand due to the higher incidence of bedwetting among boys than girls. It might be helpful to share this in...
Hi Bridget – it sounds like you have a lot to deal with at the moment. In terms of stopping the leakage, I would recommend that you try using DryN...
DryNites function in much the same way as a nappy, and can hold both urine and faeces. Due to their high level of absorbency, parents of children ...
Hi Julie – one of the best indicators that a child is moving toward achieving nighttime continence is a reduction in the number of times he wakes-u...