HI my partenr has his children week about at our house they tells us they dont want to wear drynites and can we wake them at 10 to go to toilet but them mum makes them wear them when she has them. should we tell them to wear drynites because their mum is telling us we are doing damage and she refuses to wake them up or stop their drinks at 6pm? who is hurting them.
Supporting children through the bedwetting process can be very challenging, especially when you are trying to negotiate two sets of rules. While neither approach is damaging the boys, it is important to take on board children’s personal preferences. How we as adults manage children’s bedwetting can certainly have an impact on their self-esteem and self-confidence. In saying this, I perfectly understand parent’s desire to have their children wear DryNites. As a full-time working mother, the added stress of dealing with wet sheets every morning would at times seem overwhelming! While you are still in the management phase (neither wearing DryNites nor waking children at night are considered forms of treatment), it is certainly fine for you to adopt different strategies, however when it comes time to treating their bedwetting it will be essential that you coordinate your approach regardless of who the boys are staying with. While restricting fluids and lifting children at night are no longer recommended as a way of treating bedwetting, if you do find this works for you and your partner (as well as the boys), I would recommend that you vary the times that you do this to ensure their bladders do not become conditioned to emptying at the same time each night.
Regards,
Dr Cathrine
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