there is some debate surrounding the use of rewards for achieving nighttime dryness. One of the main reasons a reward system doesn’t work is that the actual bedwetting is not directly under your child’s control. Many parents have however combined the use of incentives with say an alarm-based treatment. When using rewards it is important that you set realistic goals and keep things simple – given that your son wets every night you should not initially aim for dryness as he is most likely to fail and feel even worse about himself. Reward behaviours that he can directly control like going to the toilet before bedtime or drinking 6-8 glasses of water during the day. You could discuss with him what his initial goals may be and write these onto a chart. It might be useful to sit down and talk about the pros and cons of wearing DryNites to bed. One of the greatest benefits is not waking-up wet and cold, another great benefit is that with DryNites he can manage his bedwetting on his own – it’s up to him to put them in the bin in the morning and let you know when he needs to buy more. It may be worth pointing out to him that DryNites are not a nappy but are worn by boys as old as 15. Parental attitude is vital to the effective management of bedwetting so it is important that you do not force him to wear DryNites – hopefully with a little bit of luck his bedwetting will soon come to an end.

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