Your son is experiencing what we refer to as Secondary Nocturnal Enuresis (SNE) – this occurs when children have been completely dry at night for a period of at least six months and then begins wetting again. In secondary enuresis, the key is finding out exactly what has changed. There are a number of known underlying causes which include psychological stress such as a divorce or a death in the family. It might however be something physical such as a urinary tract infection or severe constipation. Given that his bedwetting started after his grandfather died I would guess that it is a result of stress. It is important that you give him time to grieve – children have their own ways of expressing and handling their feelings. While he may not talk to you about his sense of loss it is important that you check with him how he is feeling, reassure him that you are here for him and that he will be cared for – some children harbor fears that their parents may also die – and answer any questions he may have. Death can be difficult for adults to deal with and can appear overwhelming and confusing for children. Your son will need patience, understanding and support to help him come to terms with his grandfather’s death. I suspect his bedwetting will stop once he has worked through his grief. If his bedwetting continues or it becomes an issue for either you or your son then I would recommend you speak with your GP.

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