She is obviously not able to go through the night and consequently we have 1 or 2 bed wetting accidents a night. I have tried lifting her to take her to the toilet when I go to bed but that completely wakes her up and is not always successful as either it doesn't always have the desired effect or she takes up to 2 hours to fall asleep again... What can I do?
This can be really tricky. Moving from nappies to underpants is incredibly exciting and a true measure that she is now becoming a big girl. It is important that you acknowledge and celebrate this significant transition while at the same time reminding her that the pants she wears at night are not nappies. Clearly she is a very independent and is determines to demonstrate this, so it is important that she continues to feel like she has some control over the situation. You need to help her to make the distinction between daytime wetting and nighttime wetting – which can be incredibly tricky with such a young child. Point out that DryNites (if they fit her) are made for big kids who are at least 4 years of age. I would certainly advise against forcing her to wear DryNites although you could definitely talk about the benefits of wearing absorbent pants at night, particularly during these cold nights. Hopefully once she is able to separate her success during the day from the nighttime wetting she will become more comfortable with the situation. Good luck – I would love to hear how this goes!