Hi Vanessa (and Jye) – I am so sorry to hear that your son was made to feel responsible for his bedwetting. As I am sure you are fully aware, children are not conscious of the fact that they are wetting at night, which is why reward systems are not particularly helpful, and in fact result in children feeling like more negative and hopeless about the situation. Thank goodness he has such a supportive and caring Mum as it is your response to the situation, which is most important in terms of preserving your son’s self-esteem. I think your next step is to ask to be referred to a pediatrician who specializes in treating children’s bedwetting. He or she may recommend that you try introducing a conditioning alarm to help stop his wetting. Alarms currently experience the best outcomes with approximately 75% of children experiencing nighttime continence after their use. The more support and guidance you receive the better the outcome so it is essential that you do not try and manage this on your own.

Regards,
Dr Cathrine

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